[For Married Couples] 6 Steps To Asking For What You Want In Bed!!

s*xual communication, which is necessary to get
what you want out of s*x, is a challenge for most
couples. Many people are either too embarrassed or
concerned that talking about s*x and what you
want in bed will lead to an argument. Discussing
s*x with your spouse will not only increase your
intimacy, but it will also improve s*x. And you can
talk about the kind of s*x you’d like to have
without fighting. Really. Here’s what you need to do to ask for what
you want in bed when having s*x –
1. s*xual
Communication – Think before you talk.
Before you broach the subject of s*x with your spouse, you must be
sure of your intentions. Your motivation should be to improve your
s*x life and enjoy s*x more and not to punish your husband for
forgetting to mow the lawn last weekend. Once you are certain your
intentions are good, come up with a plan for what you’d like to say.
Consider your spouse’s feelings and think specifically about what you
truly desire. Make a list if you have to.
2. s*xual Communication – Set the mood.
Obviously, you should pick a time and place (your home is probably
best) where the two of you can be alone and free from distractions.
If you’re just interested in increasing the frequency of s*x, you
might consider setting the mood before coming out and asking for
s*x. For instance, you could light a few candles, run a bath for you
and your spouse, and then start kissing him or her to get s*x
started. In this way, you are communicating without saying a word.
3. s*xual Communication – Be positive.
Instead of telling your partner the things he or she does during s*x
that you don’t like, tell them what they do to pleasure you. For
example, you could say, “You drive me wild when you nibble on my ear
before s*x,” instead of, “I hate it when you lick my belly during
s*x.” If you keep telling your spouse about the stuff you like,
eventually he or she will focus on a repertoire of those things.
4. s*xual Communication – Give explicit directions.
Again, you’re trying to eliminate criticism and negativity to avoid
hurting your spouse’s feelings. Tell him or her exactly what you’d like
done to you. Be very specific. Whisper something like, “Look into my
eyes as you unbutton my shirt. Kiss me and run your finger down
my torso. Begin to touch my br**sts…” You get the idea. This
exercise will not only get you what you want in bed but it can also
be er*tic, which can spice up s*x.
5. s*xual Communication – Use your hands.
Sometimes, you don’t even have to talk. You can simply use your
hands to direct your spouse along your body and into the positions
you’d like. This show and tell could even be a game for the two of
you, where neither of you talks, but you let your hands – and
perhaps some moaning if it happens naturally – be your guide.
6. s*xual Communication – Employ positive reinforcement.
When your spouse does something you enjoy while having s*x, tell him
or her. Moan, groan, or simply say, “That was great…” or “I love it
when you do that…” Speak up because a pat on the back, a round of
applause, and a “You’re wonderful” always set up a person for
continued success. We all want to get those applause again and
again.